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If you know whom you love, you will know who you are.

LOVING YOURSELF

Some people find loving themselves to be quite difficult.  Others find it to be quite easy.

Some people (most) tend to do it “halfway.”  In some ways, they love themselves.  In other ways, they let themselves go.

For example, I’ve always worked very hard on the “mental” and “spiritual” aspects of my life.  But, I haven’t always worked as hard as I should to get my physical body in as good of shape as it should be.  IN OTHER WORDS, I loved my mind and my spirit more than my body.

Over the past few years, I have worked more in bringing the physical aspects of my life “up to speed.”  In other words, I’m working to bring things into balance in the area of loving myself.

LOVING OTHERS

On the other hand, some people are out of balance in the area of loving others.

For instance, when I review many of my earlier “romantic” relationships, I can see that some of them were out of balance.  By that I mean that I gave out much more love than I received.

The interesting thing is that whenever I dated someone who gave back as much or more as I did, one of two things would happen.  Either I wouldn’t want them, or in the one case (other than that of my wife) where I did want them, there were other issues that prevented me from pursuing the relationship.

Now, whenever one examines a person’s relationships with others, one must consider the following.  If there are people such as me who give more than they receive, there must also be a corresponding number of people who take more than they give.

When I think of this second type of individual (“takers” as I call them), I think of one person in particular.  While I don’t want to go into details, let’s just say I had the “learning experience” of having spent many years with such an individual.  What I learned from the relationship was very interesting.  Here is what I learned.

NO MATTER HOW MUCH I THOUGHT THEY WOULD EVENTUALLY CHANGE, THEY NEVER DID (AND THEY PROBABLY NEVER WILL).

So, how did that relationship end up?  The relationship kept going forward, out of balance, until such time as I finally stood up.  I decided that if I truly loved myself, it meant I must walk away from the other person.

So, that’s another type of balance.  One must balance their love for self with their love for others.

In other words, there must be balance on all levels.  That’s the nature of balance.

Learning to be balanced in your dealing with love is a sign of experience; a sign of personal maturity.

SOME RECOMMENDED READING

Laws Of Positioning #4 – Position Yourself To Be Balanced

Laws Of Positioning #62 – Position Yourself To Be Loving (And Loved)

Laws Of Positioning #65 – Position Yourself To Be Mature

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