During a 3 1/2 hour walk today, I came up with a thought I wanted to share.
Say No To Others And Yes To Yourself
No – (a negative used to express dissent, denial, or refusal, as in response to a question or request).
Yes – (used to express affirmation or assent or to mark the addition of something emphasizing and amplifying a previous statement).
Here a two things I want you to think about first:
1) You only have a limited amount of time each day, week, month, year, etc. Your time is finite.
2) You only have so much energy, be it emotional, physical, spiritual, whatever. Your energy is finite.
In other words, your resources are finite.
When You Give To Others, It Reduces The Amount Of Resources You Have Left For Yourself
It’s a simple equation.
If your time is finite and you give some of it away to someone else, you have less time left over for yourself.
If your energy is finite and you give some of it away to someone else, you have less energy left over for yourself.
If your resources are finite and you give some of them away to someone else, you have fewer resources left over for yourself.
But Isn’t It A Good Thing To Help Others
ABSOLUTELY, PROVIDED YOU LEAVE ENOUGH FOR YOURSELF SO THAT YOU ARE NO NEGLECTED.
If you give so much away that you don’t have enough for yourself, THEN it’s a problem.
I’m in the process of writing my fourth book and it focuses on the stories of many senior citizens. One recurring them throughout MANY of the stories is that these seniors spent a lifetime of helping others and now they need help for themselves.
Fortunately, these seniors are finding ways to get the help they need. BUT, wouldn’t it be nice is they would have had a little bit left over from what they gave during their lifetimes so that they could have helped themselves?
It’s All About Balancing Selfishness With Selflessness
Take a minute to look at the definition of the words selfish and selfless:
Selfish – devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
Selfless – having little or no concern for oneself, esp. with regard to fame, position, money, etc.; unselfish.
Both of these words are opposite ends of the spectrum. BUT, like most things in life, the best path is one that is balanced; one that takes the middle path.
The best way is to sometimes help others and to sometimes help yourself. Even better is if you’re able to find a way that helps BOTH others and yourself, AT THE SAME TIME.
Some Recommended Reading
Have you checked out my website that profiles the benefits of walking? iWarriorWalk.com