Say No To Others And Yes To Yourself
by Stanley Bronstein on August 14, 2009During a 3 1/2 hour walk today, I came up with a thought I wanted to share.
Say No To Others And Yes To Yourself
No – (a negative used to express dissent, denial, or refusal, as in response to a question or request).
Yes – (used to express affirmation or assent or to mark the addition of something emphasizing and amplifying a previous statement).
Here a two things I want you to think about first:
1) You only have a limited amount of time each day, week, month, year, etc. Your time is finite.
2) You only have so much energy, be it emotional, physical, spiritual, whatever. Your energy is finite.
In other words, your resources are finite.
When You Give To Others, It Reduces The Amount Of Resources You Have Left For Yourself
It’s a simple equation.
If your time is finite and you give some of it away to someone else, you have less time left over for yourself.
If your energy is finite and you give some of it away to someone else, you have less energy left over for yourself.
If your resources are finite and you give some of them away to someone else, you have fewer resources left over for yourself.
But Isn’t It A Good Thing To Help Others
ABSOLUTELY, PROVIDED YOU LEAVE ENOUGH FOR YOURSELF SO THAT YOU ARE NO NEGLECTED.
If you give so much away that you don’t have enough for yourself, THEN it’s a problem.
I’m in the process of writing my fourth book and it focuses on the stories of many senior citizens. One recurring them throughout MANY of the stories is that these seniors spent a lifetime of helping others and now they need help for themselves.
Fortunately, these seniors are finding ways to get the help they need. BUT, wouldn’t it be nice is they would have had a little bit left over from what they gave during their lifetimes so that they could have helped themselves?
It’s All About Balancing Selfishness With Selflessness
Take a minute to look at the definition of the words selfish and selfless:
Selfish – devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
Selfless – having little or no concern for oneself, esp. with regard to fame, position, money, etc.; unselfish.
Both of these words are opposite ends of the spectrum. BUT, like most things in life, the best path is one that is balanced; one that takes the middle path.
The best way is to sometimes help others and to sometimes help yourself. Even better is if you’re able to find a way that helps BOTH others and yourself, AT THE SAME TIME.
Some Recommended Reading
Laws Of Positioning #4 – Position Yourself To Be Balanced
Laws Of Positioning #10 – Position Yourself To Be Caring
Laws Of Positioning #42 – Position Yourself To Be Generous
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Until next time, take care, my dear friends.Mr. Achievement
Stanley F. Bronstein
Attorney & CPA
August 18th, 2009 at 6:58 am
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September 3rd, 2009 at 5:55 pm
Helping others, and not leaving time for myself is a common occurrence. Yet, what a reward it is to say yes to affirm our needs and feel balanced, as you suggest. I like your use of metaphors and great definitions!
Keep up the important work you are doing!
Bonnie
September 7th, 2009 at 1:25 pm
I like to say if you don’t take care of yourself…..no one else will. Learning how to love ourselves is our way of saying you’re worth it, and other people get the message loud and clear also. It’s not selfish to be taking care of self. Thanks for the article.