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Law #87

Position Yourself To Be Sincere

You have it easily in your power to increase the sum total of this world’s happiness now. How? By giving a few words of sincere appreciation to someone who is lonely or discouraged. Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime. (Dale Carnegie)

Some Definitions

Easily – In an easy manner; with ease; without trouble. Without question.

Power – Ability to do or act; capability of doing or accomplishing something. Great or marked ability to do or act; strength; might; force. See Law #77 – Position Yourself To Be Powerful.

Increase – To make greater, as in number, size, strength, or quality; augment; add to. To become greater, as in number, size, strength, or quality.

Sum Total – Constituting or comprising the whole; entire; whole. Complete in extent or degree; absolute; unqualified; utter.

World – Humankind; the human race; humanity. Everything that exists; the universe; the macrocosm.

Happiness – Good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy. See Law #45 – Position Yourself To Be Happy.

Now – At the present time or moment. Without further delay; immediately; at once.

Giving – To present voluntarily and without expecting compensation; bestow.

Few – A small number of persons or things.

Words – Speech or talk. A short talk or conversation.

Sincere – Free of deceit, hypocrisy, or falseness; earnest. Genuine; real. Pure; unmixed; unadulterated.

Appreciation – Gratitude; thankful recognition. See Law #3 – Position Yourself To Be Appreciative.

Lonely – Affected with, characterized by, or causing a depressing feeling of being alone; lonesome. Lone; solitary; without company; companionless.

Discouraged – Deprived of courage, hope, or confidence; disheartened; dispirited.

Forget – To cease or fail to remember; be unable to recall.

Tomorrow – The day following today. A future period or time.

Kind Words – Words that have, show, or proceed from benevolence

Recipient – A person or thing that receives; receiver. The beneficiary.

Cherish – To hold or treat as dear; feel love for. To care for tenderly; nurture.

Lifetime – For the duration of a person’s life.

Source: Dictionary.com

What Is My Point?

This entire post is about the power of sincerity.  It is about the power that taking sincere actions can bring into our lives.

The point suggests something very simple.  Just a little favor from you to the right person; just a few kind words in the right direction; might mean little or nothing to you, but it can change another person’s life forever.

An Example Of Insincerity

I asked someone recently who shall remain nameless to please do me a favor.  We have mutual friends in common, so I would have normally expected that this person would have been willing to help me.  In fact, I would have been shocked if they would not have helped me.

Instead, I got the exact opposite reaction.  This person, who professes to live a life of helping others was unwilling to help me, although it would have meant little or nothing to them.

Why they would not help me, I’m not sure.  I have my guesses, and I suspect it is because there would have been nothing in it for them, except the joy of having helped me.  No financial rewards; no financial gains.

I don’t know what to think.  I’m not sure, but the more I think about it, the more I realize it doesn’t matter.

What matters is THE EXAMPLE AND WHAT I LEARNED FROM IT.

To me, the example was one of being insincere.  Instead of dwelling on it, I’m simply going to learn from it.  As I move up in my career, and as I have opportunities to help others younger than me and less advanced than me, I’m need to help them when possible. That’s what I need to learn from the example.

What I perceived as the insincerity of another hurt me.

I choose to remember that and turn it around.  I will remember how much my sincerity can help others and I will choose to be sincere.

That’s What You Need To Do

Sincerity has power, but it’s a hard emotion to identify in others.  People pretend to be sincere all the time and it’s not always very easy to identify whether or not they are practicing what they are preaching.

So instead, we have to focus on our own sincerity and not worry about that of others.

Please don’t misunderstand me, if others around us are being insincere, we need to remember that as we work and deal with them.  BUT, the only thing we can control is ourselves.

So, we must CHOOSE, CONSCIOUSLY to be sincere.

We must choose to be real.  We must choose to be free of hypocrisy.   We must choose to be genuine.  We must choose to back up our words with action.

That’s what we need to learn.

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