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Law #40

Position Yourself To Be Friendly

It is easy enough to be friendly to one’s friends. But to befriend the one who regards himself as your enemy is the quintessence of true religion. The other is mere business. (Mahatma Gandhi)

Some Definitions

Easy – Not hard or difficult; requiring no great labor or effort. Providing or conducive to ease or comfort; comfortable.

Enough – Adequate for the want or need; sufficient for the purpose or to satisfy desire. An adequate quantity or number; sufficiency.

Friendly – Favorably disposed; inclined to approve, help, or support. Characteristic of or befitting a friend; showing friendship. Not hostile or at variance; amicable.

Friend(s) – A person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. A person who gives assistance; patron; supporter.

Befriend – To make friends or become friendly with; act as a friend to; help; aid.

Regards – To look upon or think of with a particular feeling. To have or show respect or concern for. To think highly of; esteem.

Enemy – A person who feels hatred for, fosters harmful designs against, or engages in antagonistic activities against another; an adversary or opponent. A hostile nation or state.

Quintessence – The pure and concentrated essence of a substance. The most perfect embodiment of something.

True – Real; genuine; authentic. Being in accordance with the actual state or conditions; conforming to reality or fact; not false.

Religion – A set of beliefs concerning the cause, nature, and purpose of the universe, esp. when considered as the creation of a superhuman agency or agencies, usually involving devotional and ritual observances, and often containing a moral code governing the conduct of human affairs. Something one believes in and follows devotedly; a point or matter of ethics or conscience.

Mere – Being nothing more nor better than.

Business – An assignment or task; chore. That with which a person is principally and seriously concerned.

Source: Dictionary.com

Elements Of Friendliness

Some of the elements of friendliness are:

Approval – Pronounce or consider agreeable or good; judge favorably.

Help - To give or provide what is necessary to accomplish a task or satisfy a need; contribute strength or means to; render assistance to; cooperate effectively with.

Support – To maintain (a person, family, establishment, institution, etc.) by supplying with things necessary to existence; provide for. To provide aid or assistance.

Not Being Hostile – Not being opposed in feeling, action, or character; not being antagonistic.

Respect – Esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability.

Concern – To relate to; be connected with; be of interest or importance to; affect.

For all of these, your actions must true. They must be real; they must be genuine.

What Happens When You Are Friendly To Someone Else?

When you are friendly to someone else, two things happen:

1. You make it easier for them to be friendly to you; and
2. They respect you and care about you more because you cease being their enemy and you become their friend.

In other words:

• If you show true and genuine approval of another, it is easier for them to show approval toward you and more likely they will do so;

• If you provide true and genuine help to another, it is easier for them to help you and more likely they will do so;

• If you provide true and genuine support, of whatever type is needed to another, it is easier for them to provide support to you and more likely they will do so;

• If you are truly and genuinely not hostile toward another, it is easier for them to not be hostile toward you and less likely that they will be hostile toward you;

• If you truly and genuinely show respect for another, it is easier for them to respect you and more likely they will do so; and

• If you truly and genuinely show concern for another, it is easier for them to show concern for you and more likely they will do so.

What Do You Want From Others?

Do you want others to approve of you?

Do you want others to help you?

Do you want others to provide you support?

Do you want others to not be hostile toward you?

Do you want others to respect you?

Do you want others to show concern for you?

If you answered yes to all of these questions (and hopefully you did), then my point is simple:

If you want those things from others, you have to be willing to give it to them first. You have to be willing to start the ball rolling.

By starting the ball rolling, you are positioning yourself to be friendly. By being friendly, you open the door for so many good things to happen in your life and in the universe around you.

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