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Law #4

Position Yourself To Be Balanced

Balance -a state of equilibrium; mental steadiness or emotional stability; to be equal or proportionate to

Now that we have defined the word balance, I ask you a simple question. Is your life in balance with itself? Is your career in balance with itself? Are your life and career in balance with each other?

The best definition of balance I have ever heard was told to me over 10 years ago when I visited Canyon Ranch Spa in Tucson Arizona. While taking a Tai Chi class, the instructor talked about balance. He said, balance is increasing that which is deficient and decreasing that which is excessive.

Personally, I love that definition because it’s so simple. If we have too much of something, it needs to be cut back. If we have too little of something, we need to get more of it. That’s all there is to it. That’s what balance is all about.

In my personal experience, balance is so important. Whenever our lives and our careers get out of balance, things start to go wrong. Things start to fall apart and we start to suffer. Even worse, those around us often suffer just as much, if not more. For example, if a father spends too many hours at work, his family may suffer because the father is not there to share in the activities of the mother, or of their children. That’s just one example.

One place where I think balance is important is in the family unit. For example, the best results from families usually come from families where there is both a father and a mother and the power / control is balanced between the two. Unfortunately, these day, all too many families are lacking either one or both of those components. Consequently, it leads to many broken families.

For children who are the victims of such unbalanced families, you must learn to forgive your parents and to achieve balance in your own life, despite the previous actions of your parents. For children who benefited from balanced families, that is one issue you do not have to deal with (although if you are like most of us, you have plenty of other issues to deal with).

While I am not trying to be stereotypical, one place where the family unit is all too often unbalanced is in the typical African American family. While interviewing persons for my upcoming book, Achievement IQ Moments: 50 Stories of Powerful People Who Positioned Themselves to the Top, I interviewed a few African American gentlemen who were fortunate to have come from balanced families.

One such person was Calvin F. Williams, Jr. of Greensboro, North Carolina. In the video below, he talks about having come from a balanced family life.

Calvin F. Williams, Jr. is one of the persons who will be featured in my upcoming book:

Achievement IQ Moments
50 Stories Of Powerful People
Who Positioned Themselves To The TopIf you want to view that portion of the interview, click on the image below.

Another such person who had experiences is Eric Kirkland of Phoenix, Arizona, who grew up in urban Detroit.Eric Kirkland is also one of the persons who will be featured in my upcoming book: Achievement IQ Moments
50 Stories Of Powerful People
Who Positioned Themselves To The TopIf you want to view that portion of the interview, click on the image below.