I agree. I’m suggesting that one should position themselves so that you are a person who is known as one who follows through.

Stanley Bronstein
MrAchievement

Take care and I look forward to establishing a long-standing relationship with you.

Stanley

It is so wonderful that you visited your nanny and stay in touch with her. There are many older people who have family, but don’t hear from them in loving ways. That’s where we step in. A phone call or a card means so much to them.

In spite of my love of the Internet, I still recognize the value of sending snail mail. So for most major holidays and some not so major, I sent greeting cards to my personal mailing list. A few times a year, I sit down with my phone book and call a few people I don’t see anymore and seldom talk to. They, and I, end up feeling good.

Being loving is like a boomerang. It comes back to you.

I’m happy I discovered your blog. I just added it to my Blogroll.

Happy Memorial Day,
Flora

You and I are kindred spirits. Just from reading you comments, I know that you “get it”.

As for a win-win situation. This past weekend, my wife and I were in Lake Charles, Louisiana for one of my closest friend’s family functions. While there, my wife and I were privileged to drive about 4 hours to go to Lafayette, Louisiana and visit my nanny who raised me (she is now 79). She has family, but as is all too often the case, her family only likes to talk about what she can do for them, instead of what they can do for her.

We spent 90 minutes with her and I could tell she appreciated it so much. I consider myself fortunate that I had the chance to see her (as it had been 6 months since I last saw her and 5 years before that).

My wife and I make it a habit to call her at least once a week and I think we’re going to start calling her more.

The more I think about this Flora, it all ties in to Law # 62 - Position Yourself To Be Loved / Loving. Love makes things better.

Take care and I hope you stick around and comments on my postings ALL the time. Your insight is important to me.

Take care.

Stanley

Thanks for your response.

I believe that we have to show the Universe how we want to be treated by treating ourselves well first. Your wife has discovered, like I have, that sometimes that means saying no. Thankfully, I don’t have to do this too often.

On the other hand, it is wonderfully gratifying when you help someone who benefits and appreciates your dependability. In these cases it’s a win-win situation.

Blessings,
Flora

You are totally correct and thanks for pointing it out. You must FIRST and ALWAYS be dependable for yourself (and that sometimes means you must put your interests ahead of others).

For example, my wife knows a lot of senior citizens as she does “Meals on Wheels” a few days a week where she delivers means to seniors. Some of them have become her close friends (in fact her closest one is a 95 year old kind man who I always call her “boyfriend”.

She also, has run into some people who just want to take advantage of her. She has learned (through actual experience), that she sometimes has to say no.

Take care.

Stanley

I agree that being dependable and showing up will increase your abilities and ensure your success. The one person we must always be available to is ourselves. Helping others is a worthy endeavor, as long as we aren’t blocking them from being dependable and available for themselves.