Law #23 – Position Yourself To Be Dependable
by Stanley Bronstein on May 25, 2008
Law #23
Position Yourself To Be Dependable
The Universe doesn’t ask about your ability, only your availability; and, if you prove your dependability, the Universe will increase your capability. (Adaptation of a quote from Neal A. Maxwell)
Some Definitions
Dependability – Capable of being depended on; worthy of trust; reliable.
Universe – The totality of known or supposed objects and phenomena throughout space; the cosmos; macrocosm. Your “higher power”.
Ask – To put a question to; inquire of. To request information about.
Ability – Power or capacity to do or act physically, mentally, legally, morally, financially, etc.. Competence in an activity or occupation because of one’s skill, training, or other qualification.
Availability – Suitable or ready for use; of use or service; at hand. Readily obtainable; accessible.
Prove – To establish the truth or genuineness of, as by evidence or argument. To give demonstration of by action.
Increase – To make greater, as in number, size, strength, or quality; augment; add to. To become greater, as in number, size, strength, or quality.
Capability – The quality of being capable; capacity; ability. Qualities, abilities, features, etc., that can be used or developed; potential.
What Does This Quote Suggest?
First of all, it makes reference to the “universe”. I prefer to use the word “universe”, as it is non-denominational. By universe, I mean “your higher power.” Whatever higher power you believe in, the message behind the quote is still a strong one.
The quote suggests that your higher power doesn’t bother to ask whether or not you already have all the abilities needed to get a task done. INSTEAD, it wants to know about your availability. In other words, are you going to show up and get yourself in the game. If you’re not in the game, then you’re not ready to be successful or of much benefit to your fellow man.
Next, it suggests that if you prove that you are trustworthy; that you can be counted on (in other words, is your head in the game), then your higher power will increase your abilities and capacities to such a point that you will be able to take on the task at hand.
What Are The Critical Points Being Made Here?
Get your head in the game;
Prove that you are dependable; and
Everything else will come naturally and you will succeed beyond your wildest dreams.
Dependability Is Just Another Way To Say You’re Available
If you’re always available when someone needs you. If you always step up to the plate when needed, people will realize you are trustworthy. You will be known as one who can be depended upon.
Capability Is Just Another Way To Say You Have The Necessary Abilities
If you time after time, show that you are capable of dealing with the task at hand, then you have demonstrated that, somewhere along the way, you acquired the abilities needed to get the job done.
Prove That You Are Dependable And You Cannot Fail
If you are dependable, you will ALWAYS be a success in someone’s eyes. Just think about it, if everyone in the world was a little bit more dependable, wouldn’t everyone’s lives be improved?
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Until next time, take care.
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May 26th, 2008 at 1:49 pm
I’m all for dependability, but it doesn’t equate with always being available to others. As a mom, grandma and professional, I’ve encountered a few people along the way who count on someone to always be available to rescue them or serve as enablers.
I agree that being dependable and showing up will increase your abilities and ensure your success. The one person we must always be available to is ourselves. Helping others is a worthy endeavor, as long as we aren’t blocking them from being dependable and available for themselves.
May 26th, 2008 at 1:56 pm
Flora:
You are totally correct and thanks for pointing it out. You must FIRST and ALWAYS be dependable for yourself (and that sometimes means you must put your interests ahead of others).
For example, my wife knows a lot of senior citizens as she does “Meals on Wheels” a few days a week where she delivers means to seniors. Some of them have become her close friends (in fact her closest one is a 95 year old kind man who I always call her “boyfriend”.
She also, has run into some people who just want to take advantage of her. She has learned (through actual experience), that she sometimes has to say no.
Take care.
Stanley
May 26th, 2008 at 2:03 pm
Stanley,
Thanks for your response.
I believe that we have to show the Universe how we want to be treated by treating ourselves well first. Your wife has discovered, like I have, that sometimes that means saying no. Thankfully, I don’t have to do this too often.
On the other hand, it is wonderfully gratifying when you help someone who benefits and appreciates your dependability. In these cases it’s a win-win situation.
Blessings,
Flora
May 26th, 2008 at 2:25 pm
Flora:
You and I are kindred spirits. Just from reading you comments, I know that you “get it”.
As for a win-win situation. This past weekend, my wife and I were in Lake Charles, Louisiana for one of my closest friend’s family functions. While there, my wife and I were privileged to drive about 4 hours to go to Lafayette, Louisiana and visit my nanny who raised me (she is now 79). She has family, but as is all too often the case, her family only likes to talk about what she can do for them, instead of what they can do for her.
We spent 90 minutes with her and I could tell she appreciated it so much. I consider myself fortunate that I had the chance to see her (as it had been 6 months since I last saw her and 5 years before that).
My wife and I make it a habit to call her at least once a week and I think we’re going to start calling her more.
The more I think about this Flora, it all ties in to Law # 62 – Position Yourself To Be Loved / Loving. Love makes things better.
Take care and I hope you stick around and comments on my postings ALL the time. Your insight is important to me.
Take care.
Stanley
May 26th, 2008 at 2:51 pm
Hi Stanley,
It is so wonderful that you visited your nanny and stay in touch with her. There are many older people who have family, but don’t hear from them in loving ways. That’s where we step in. A phone call or a card means so much to them.
In spite of my love of the Internet, I still recognize the value of sending snail mail. So for most major holidays and some not so major, I sent greeting cards to my personal mailing list. A few times a year, I sit down with my phone book and call a few people I don’t see anymore and seldom talk to. They, and I, end up feeling good.
Being loving is like a boomerang. It comes back to you.
I’m happy I discovered your blog. I just added it to my Blogroll.
Happy Memorial Day,
Flora
May 26th, 2008 at 3:34 pm
Flora:
Take care and I look forward to establishing a long-standing relationship with you.
Stanley
August 7th, 2008 at 10:24 am
Dependability depends upon the fact that one has promised something. To be dependable means
that you can be considered as willing to follow through. —-Doug Rosbury
August 7th, 2008 at 10:32 am
Doug:
I agree. I’m suggesting that one should position themselves so that you are a person who is known as one who follows through.
Stanley Bronstein
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