We often refuse to accept an idea merely because the tone of voice in which it has been expressed is unsympathetic to us. Friedrich Nietzsche
Why We Need To Listen
The above quote suggests that as humans, people have a tendency to shut out anything they do not like. Unfortunately I have found this to be all too true on many occasions.
Heck, anyone who’s been in a relationship with anyone for a significant length of time knows this. By way of an example, your spouse, parent or child might not listen to you just because they don’t like what they “THINK” you are saying.
They don’t even bother to analyze what you’ve said. They will simply reject your thoughts because they have “prejudged” that they will not like them.
How many times have you ever “judged” someone in advance, only to find out later that you were wrong? Probably more often than you would care to admit.
Every time we fail to “deeply” listen to someone else (or even ourselves for that matter), we are prejudging them. We are forming conclusions about their thoughts, their ideas, before they even have a chance to communicate them.
I believe that when we do that, we are NOT doing them justice. We are shortchanging them and shortchanging ourselves.
From Listening Comes Wisdom
Listening is one the many ways we can learn from others. When we fail to listen, we lose.
Please don’t misunderstand me. There are people out there who have very little, if anything of substance to say. BUT, if we shut them off BEFORE we have listened to them, we’ll never know whether or not their words had any value, will we?
If you bother to actually listen to others; to ACTUALLY LISTEN TO THEM; you just might gain perceptions that others lack. What an advantage that would be for you.
I don’t know about you, but some of the most interesting things I’ve ever learned have come from the unlikeliest of sources. All I can say is I’m glad I listened.
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