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TODAY, WE’RE GOING TO BE FOCUSING ON 5 SUPERIOR THOUGHTS FROM ONE OF THE ALL-TIME GREATS, DALE CARNEGIE.

Your job is to pick at least 1 of those 5 and do some heavy-duty thinking about it and to then share your thoughts with us as comments below.

1) Talk In Terms Of The Other Person’s Interest.

Me, me, me, me. me.  That seems to be everyone’s favorite subject.

However, if you want to be successful, you need to learn to talk about you, you, you, you, you.

I can promise you, that no matter who you are, you are probably more interested in yourself than you are in me.

Yet, for some strange reason, people (even salespeople), often like to talk about themselves.  Perhaps it is because it is the one subject they know the most about.

We will NOT be successful until we show others that we care about them.

See Laws of Positioning #10 – Position Yourself To Be Caring

2) Make The Other Person Feel Important.

This is similar to thought #1 above.  We all want to feel important.

HOWEVER, the only thing more important than making us feel important is the joy we can receive from making others feel important.

Just think of a young child.  Then think of doing something and letting them take the credit.  They will feel so important that it might just give them a lifetime of confidence.

What a gift that would be for you to give to them.

See Laws of Positioning #42 – Position Yourself To Be Generous

3) The Only Way To Get The Best Of An Argument Is To Avoid It.

Arguing might win us a battle, but it might also cost us the war.

Trust me, I know.  In the past, I have seen too many valued relationships fall apart simply because the people involved argued too much.

My experience is that it takes two people to argue.  The one who starts it and the one who finishes it.

If you don’t start it, there can be no argument.

If you refuse to finish an argument someone else started, there can be no argument.

Yet for some reason, there’s way too much arguing going on in this world.

We argue because we want to win.  Well, sometimes the best way to win is to refuse to fight.

See Laws of Positioning #69 – Position Yourself To Be Passionate

4) Let The Other Person Feel That The Idea Is Theirs.

If we do not dare to be great, we will never be great (unless we are VERY lucky). That’s just the way it works.

So many times in life we are faced with challenges and we can either give up or go forward.

The ones who refuse to give up and continue to go forward are usually the most successful.

We have to dare to be great.

See Laws of Positioning #99 – Position Yourself To Be A Winner

5) Show Respect For The Other Person’s Opinion.  Never Tell A Person They Are Wrong.

Why do we need to avoid telling a person they’re wrong?  Because it will make them angry with you; because it might embarass them.

There are all kinds of reasons to avoid telling a person they are wrong.

Unless your goal is to inflict suffering on another, telling another person they are wrong will NEVER accomplish anything.

ALL IT WILL DO IS MAKE THEM YOUR ENEMY.

Civilized people have the right to disagree with each other, but to do so in an uncivilized manner will NEVER produce good results.

The goal is to win, NOT to conquer.

See Laws of Positioning #96 – Position Yourself To Be A Victorious Warrior

What Do You Think?

What do you think about these thoughts? Please share your thoughts below.

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